Awaken from within

If you are unsure why joining a program like “Awaken from within” would be beneficial to you I totally get it I’ve even written a blog post about this exact question I asked myself. You can find it here “When you ask, you receive”. The key word here is “ask” because what I discovered about myself and about a lot of women I have spoken with, is that we have this built in voice inside that talks down to us whenever we need to ask for something. Whether we want to ask for help on a work project, ask for help getting the chores done at home, ask for a pay raise because we know we are entitled to one or ask someone to not speak to us in a certain way because its rude and hurtful. Even asking our self to be kinder and less controlling to our self and others.

We somehow always have an answer that dismisses the very need we had in the first place. To listen to our own guidance from within because I’ll tell you one thing, it knows exactly what we need and every day it’s there waiting for us to surrender and listen. The more we fight it and try to do what we think we “should” be doing, the louder the voice can get.

 

This is where things start to get really uncomfortable because you are pushing up against who you thought you were and the person you truly are meant to be. You start seeing your daily life as one activity after another that doesn’t feel like you. It’s another person’s life happening to you.

Reminder, you haven’t done anything wrong you’re not a bad person and this isn’t how it has to go on.

 

We grow, change and learn and that is the cycle of life. It’s just sometimes our mind and body can get lost on the way. If we are unaware of ourselves going through change it can be a difficult pill to swallow. Then when the penny drops, and we start to see the change within. It can be a huge adjustment that our habits and body have to make to catch up with who we have changed into.

Years of doing things a certain way or being a certain person suddenly are in review. If we don’t take a second to pause and give ourselves the time to digest and find some understanding in all of this. We are going to eventually hit emotional barriers and blocks because we bypassed the full experience of change.

 

As women I think it’s safe to say that contrary to popular belief, women don’t in many circumstances express their true emotions. For instance if you’ve been led to believe your whole life that women are emotional and that it’s a weakness that makes them vulnerable. I hear ya, but I’m here to tell you that it’s not a weakness, it’s a god damn super power. Emotions are POWERFUL and they show that a person is being true and real to their own experience. When we hide our true emotional expression, we are changing the way people view our experience. Also sending mixed signals to our own bodies. This is all kinds of confusing, not only for us but for the person/people around us. When someone see’s that we are ok with something but inside we are screaming and full of anger then we start suppressing ourselves. And that’s not a safe space to be in.

 

I do think that because we have been taught in most social communities to not be TOO EMOTIONAL, we have never felt safe enough to express freely and without judgement. And sometimes this is out of not wanting to feel odd and the one who is unstable/hasn’t got it all together. It can also be far more life threatening by being vilified, treated unfairly or abused because you showed your real emotion and it is triggering to others.

 

Emotions are powerful and that’s why we are taught to suppress them. Because that would make us powerful. And when women are known for having a heightened ability to access and express emotions, then we can be perceived as a threat. If a woman was able to express herself fully, she would develop such a loving, powerful yet intelligent relationship with her emotions, she could affect huge change in the world.

 

Emotions only make us weak when we don’t allow them to be fully expressed. We are then unable to transform the emotion into awareness and wisdom.

Our emotions when given the space empower us to go inwards to sense what it is true right now. Helping us make decisions and choices in our life that support our happiness. Our emotions are clues to how we could be using our intuition to support our analytical mind, giving us the best chance of building a life that is 100% of our design and who we wish to be. Powerful right?

We all have this ability within, no one has to give it to us, and we don’t need to earn it. We just have to be brave and vulnerable enough to embrace ourselves. Remember who we really are.

 

All beings entered this life to live their highest potential, no one is any less valuable or worthy when they enter this world. You wouldn’t tell a new born baby that they can’t be happy, and they don’t deserve to be. Because that simple isn’t true. A baby also expresses themselves fully, no holding back and yet we love, support and honour then, just as they are. Because we know that deep down that is our natural and true state of being. As we grow older, our ability to express our emotions would naturally become more intelligent and empowered. Instead we abandon our ability to intuitively use the emotional response as a point of guidance. Instead we tend to lean on automatic responses we have been taught from a suppressive society.

 

Awaken from within, is me saying. Women join me in a safe, non-judgemental and supportive space to discover the YOU that can express herself fully. That can feel her emotions, can speak her mind and say what she has been longing to say for so long. All without feeling shame, fear, worry or intimidation.

And the way to getting back to feeling empowered by our emotions, is by overcoming our fears and supporting ourselves in the process. With self-care and a whole lot of love, space and support.

To make this happen for you, first we must speak and see if our intentions align for this work.

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love Rach

 

 

 

Joining women in circle

I get asked sometimes, what is a women's circle? Well for me I have memories as a child of sitting in circles. You could only talk when you were holding the stick and it was a time of sharing and listening.

Women have been gathering together in circles since way back, in some cases all the women in a community would meet together as they were menstruating. When you lived in small communities it was natural that the women's menstrual cycles would sync up. What better way to celebrate fertility than to gather and rest as a group, able to support and make use of this intuitive time of the month.

For me, a nearly 30yr old woman living in the world today the idea of women coming together makes me happy. We move through our life gaining labels and assumptions of who we are as women. You’re a mum, a daughter, a housewife, single, a traveller, dating, unemployed, boss lady, divorced, widowed, single parent, slut, grandparent, retired, a friend, graduate, uneducated, Phd etc. Of course these are all important things that can be a part of us or in our lives, but really I don't think they have anything to do with who we are at the core or our being. Before we add all the stuff from above, who are we really?? Sitting in a women's circle is choosing to take off the cape you wear and just sit as the intimate, raw woman you are.

In circle, we listen with love, witness truth for women other than ourselves, and hold sacred space for one another to express without judgement or reaction. THIS is where the work is really done. Every woman who speaks her truth reflects as a mirror back to us. The words spoken are invaluable lessons for us all. Where do these words sit in my body? What do they mean to me? How can I heal from what she has shared? As we sense our ability to relate and feel compassion, we learn more about intimacy and relationships than we could ever imagine.

When we have personal spiritual practice, it is normally practiced by ourselves, alone. We learn the ins and outs of our inner world. We form a bond and relationship with ourselves, noticing our ways, nuances and habits. This deep personal work is beautiful and is needed for knowing oneself in the sanctuary of our mind and body.  The beauty with women's circles is learning how we bring our knowledge of true self into relationships and intimacy. To own your truth fully in relationships and intimacy often brings fears of judgement, shaming or rejection and It can be easier to sit alone at home to feel whole and at peace with who you are. In women’s circles we pierce our sense of comfort by showing who we truly are. As another woman shares, can your truth stand along side hers? Is it possible for you to stay in loving awareness of what is true for you whilst opening enquiry deep inside, for what her words have stirred in you?

When you ask, you receive

I was always the person that thought getting help for my life was not possible, that there weren’t people out there doing this type of work. It wasn’t until I came up against one of my most difficult times of my life, when I simply realised I didn’t at that point have the tools or ability to find the answers. It was just so far away from me and the challenge seemed too great to do alone. I thought that maybe I could find someone (a professional) to whom I could ask my questions and talk out everything that was going on, in some hope that their support and experience would help guide me to find my answers……….I let my intuition guide me to find someone who spoke to me……whose marketing and what they were offering felt authentic and right for me. That was key to finding a mentor who I thought would actually be helpful and worth my money/time. Once I found the person I fully committed, feeling nervous, excited and also a little scared.

It’s important to be fully committed in each session to make the most out of your experience. A guide or mentor should always do their best to meet your needs…..but if you as the client are not fully present in the session it can really lower the impact or progression.

So, I decided I was going to apply myself fully. I had the trust in my mentor so it was really up to me to follow through on homework, questioning my beliefs and being vulnerable.

The outcome of spending my time and money with an expert……..was to be honest completely full of all kinds of emotional responses……….I expressed and shared truths about myself that I hadn’t really ever acknowledged. I got instant answers to some of my questions, simultaneously I opened up new questions or thoughts……….one thing that became very clear to me was that each time a question got answered which inevitable led me into another my panic and stress was reduced and my ability to see clearly and without judgement had increased. I was becoming better at managing my uncertainty and negativity….I was learning from my own experiences that whatever is causing resistance or pain has its tipping point. There is a moment where perspective shifts and the pain becomes a teacher, a guiding light.

Sometimes, we just need someone we trust who is a support. Often when we are faced with personal and intimate issues, we can find it hard to locate the person we feel comfortable sharing with, who can also offer support and knowledge.

The greatest feeling can be realising you are not alone in what you are going through, that the person holding the space for you right now, has been where you are and has come through the discomfort to a better place. We learn so much about ourselves that the unfolding and uncertain future becomes that little bit less scary and we can grow into our potential and trust our intuition to guide us through.

In simple words…….a safe supported place to express your thoughts is 100% the greatest gift for transformation and change. You are not alone in this……

Community - Finding yours

Lets talk about community………………I’ll let you into a little secret. A loving, nurturing and resilient community can help heal a lost soul. Your lost soul. Yep thats it, community is everything.

It can shine a light on your deepest desires, confront you with your scariest shadows, hold your hand through the toughest of times, be your biggest support and cheerleader and honour your space of growth even occasionally water your seeds of dreams when you are unable to.

They wont let you down and they sure as hell wont let you give up on your self. I have tears running down my face writing this, because I’m not just writing this from a book I’ve read or a post I liked on social media I’m writing this from a place deep in my heart. A place thats has been lost for to long a time. Why share this piece of vulnerability with you? because I know now that I’m not the only person to feel this way. Especially when it comes to community amongst women. So often I see women including myself dumb down or suppress their femininity in order to become harder and stronger in this prominently masculine world. Being successful is often thought of as dominance, notoriety and winning.

If you take a moment to breath deep and connect with your heart, ask yourself, what does success mean for you?

A whole multitude of things could come up from this, its a pretty big question and everyones answers will be different. The chances are your thoughts don’t include causing pain and suffering in others, or to make anyone feel less than because of what you think is right. If you had it your way, the path to success would be of learning, growing and loving in a thriving community. Where everyone is able to follow their dreams whilst in the love and support of the men and women around them. There are no feelings of lack or not enough to go around. The abundance of this planet provides for every single one of us. We all have the space to plant our seeds of dreams and create the perfect conditions for them to grow in.

It can seem so far away from your experience right now but I’m here to say that it doesn’t need to be like this. There are changes happening right now, right this moment. Another woman is experiencing and receiving a gift so powerful, so much bigger and brighter, that her heart fills with so much love and high vibration. She feels the change as a force greater than herself. She knows now it is the time for her to let down here walls of fear and walk out into this world as a woman of the earth. A woman who embraces all that she is, a guiding light for others to see her, join her and truly bring change into this world. The importance of creating balance between the masculine and feminine, is so important right now and it takes every one of us to step up and be their own voice of change in their communities around the world. Great leaders listen to the voices of all their people, great communities are built in the same way.

I’am loved, how my heart got cracked open with Yoga Nidra in the mountains of Norway

How I ended up with 15 enchanting women, at a beautiful mountain retreat in the magical surroundings of Norway.

I had, butterflies weeks up to the training, I had even in a conversation with the organiser, said that I somehow knew this would be a memorable week full of magic. Little did I know what was to come.

For the last couple of years, I had found myself struggling to find my voice and speak from a place of wholeness. To often I would experience that feeling of not being able to communicate my thoughts and character. It could feel like a frog in my throat or a heaviness in my heart. It started to happen more often than not and that lead to my self confidence and happiness to become less and less.

Confusion and frustration set in and I would often find my self living in a non reality. I would relive my past, thinking what if and look to the future and plan for good and bad fortune. My outer pain was taking me away from what was the inner me. The walls I was putting up around me were slowly getting closer.

I truly believe that what you put out into the universe comes right back at you. To pull myself back to the now I put in place the manifestation of finding my support system. Ive spoken about togetherness before and this is exactly what I needed. People may wonder how I found this openness and trust to explore different perspectives of life and the universe, but I strongly believe that their is only truth in what you have experienced. The world is uncertain and forever changing, so whatever you experience is true or your truth. I see the world in colour, so the idea of things being black and white doesn’t seem quite right.

As soon as our guide Jana Roemer initiated the beginnings of our journey, my heart was already listening intently as if someone had just turned up the volume. You know you’ve become part of something transformational when the women sharing her knowledge and experience, is so full of passion and pure love its radiating out of her and into the room. The pieces of my life so far were all starting to come together.

We were doing Yoga Nidra twice a day, morning and night, the rest of the day was spent in lecture, learning the science behind Nidra and different perceptions of its capabilities. I was fascinated and also finding my brain making connection after connection with what was being said.

Our brain is truly amazing, but its so obvious how we over think and use the brain to self sabotage. How many times have you listened to that voice in your head retelling an old story? How often does a hidden trauma as a child or younger version of your self, re appear disguised as a new fear?

Trauma often comes along with its own set of emotions. Those emotions are forever linked to that trauma as long as you let it run the same patterns over and over again. Have you ever noticed that different emotions have different breath patterns? If your angry you maybe hold your breath and tense. If you are crying you gulp the air down uncontrollably. When your diaphragm works properly its signals your body to be in parasympathetic rest. The breath needs to feel the body is a safe place to travel, so when you are fully in your body, it will not release stress hormones but instead initiate healing you from the inside.

Every time you experience Yoga Nidra your inviting yourself into parasympathetic rest. Allowing your body and mind to be in a completely safe space. With the idea of letting the mind and body drift into deep sleep. You are left with the awareness of your consciousness. At this point the universe is your oyster……I guess this is where your experience is the only truth. No two Nidra’s are the same and the ever lasting affects aren’t always apparent until its time. Its a journey into to your inner self. The closer you get, the endless universal possibilities become heart openly apparent.

So if this hasn’t at the very least jumped your curiosity I hope that one day your sub conscious mind will remember this post and lead you to take your first Yoga Nidra. And if you looking for another reason to try,  just 30 minutes of Yoga Nidra is as much as 2 hours of deep delta sleep. Your pretty much guaranteed to awaken a lighter more rested you.

And I will leave you with some words I wrote during the training.

Never limit your beliefs, dreams or capability of love. When you can realise this, pour loving intention into everything you do. This power alone can change your inner world. There is nothing greater than being your truest self.

 

Togetherness

I crave togetherness and not just in the sense of a loved one but with a whole community or you could say the whole world. I wish and dream to be part of something where people live with their hearts wide open lovingly and vulnerably.

At the heart of everything I do is this core desire. Its what sets my heart on fire. To see people come together, communicating and letting go of all hidden agendas. Letting their open hearts guide them to pure joy and ecstasy. Isn’t that what all human life truly lives for???? 

To me it symbolises a peaceful and restful life, leading to an abundance of inspiration and creativity. People automatically light up and become full of life when togetherness occurs. And yet we are all afraid maybe even overwhelmed by this simplistic idea.

I guess togetherness means we would have to release our ego’s and invite our higher self to embrace all with uncertainty. Our resistance to letting go of the ego holds us back in so many ways. 

I imagine our minds walking around in a dark room. Always walking in the same circular pattern, the safe and trusted way we have learned. If we let our intuition our “higher self” join us in the dark room, all of a sudden we would brake the old pattern and find a new way. Reaching out to the walls we would find the light switch that would fill the room with light and show us to the door which leads us to somewhere new.

 I like to put it as ‘taking intuitively guided risk’ the idea isn’t that its all rainbows on the other side, more that you don’t get stuck reliving old patterns dressed up in new ways. Find the door and walk through into the unknown. We are made to flow and be life living. Every time someone walks through a new door a thousand new possibilities are born.

We create when we trust and let be.

From fear to freedom

You never know how things will unfold, especially when you are diving into a completely new adventure.

It is true that every day is a new adventure but for some reason of which there are many, we somehow normalise and make the every day as predictable as possible. Of course its impossible to predict the future but we are very good at making sure things don’t go off the path we have intended. I have seen this behaviour in myself more and more as I have grown older and been through a variety of emotions and experiences.

When I have experienced something unpleasant my reaction is it hold that memory and label it as ( do not experience again)

When I have a beautiful happy experiences I will often hang on to it and label it as ( don’t let go of this )

I have become more willing and truthfully pushed to my edge, to question my beliefs on life, relationships and humanity.

If I’am making decisions in my life based on a belief I labelled in my head from the past, this leads me to live in self induced fear. I’m repeating patterns from my past. If I had a difficult experience with death and abandonment as a child and labelled the experience as ( to not be repeated) first of all, death is coming for everyone there is no denying it. If you have been abandoned then the likely chances are you have trouble trusting your chances of having a successful relationship with anyone, in fear that you will be abandoned again.

Writing this, makes me wonder why, we let the fears from past live on in our now. Good and bad things are happening all the time that is just how it goes, but why live waiting for it to happen to you?

When we know it is 100% a new day every day, why would we want to relive it with past emotions and beliefs?

Everyday we are given the gift to rewrite our map of life. If we come to a dead end we can change the direction. If a way of thinking is making us unhappy then we can potentially change the way we think. The idea that it is ourself that must change and question our own thoughts can feel difficult. Like someone coming in and tearing pages out of your past, out of your story and screwing it up into a ball and throwing it away. Only to start over again. You had spent your whole life writing that story, you had been through everything, to be told that it doesn’t need to be like that anymore.

Do you let go with ease and trust that everything will be ok, or do you panic and go looking through the rubbish to find your old story, unable to let go?

Its easy to see that one way will lead to living in the now, continuously in a state of flow adapting to whatever comes our way. The other will leave you stuck and hitting the repeat button over and over again, reliving the same highs and lows, giving a sense of predictability to life.

Do you choose fearlessness and freedom?


My story - staying present with love

Sharing the peace and love that Yoga embodies, helping us connect with ourselves and others with a clear and open, mind and body. Step into your sacred light, yes thats what I aim to share. If your wondering what I mean by this, I can best explain it like this;

One of the greatest gifts we behold, is the gift of compassion. Finding love for someone/something in your heart at all times no matter what has happened. Seeing past the drama, letting what is, just be and letting your heart stay open throughout all that life brings.

Feeling a part of, or connected to life is what exercises the love and compassion inside of us. Wether you sing in a group, go for walks with a friend, or are going to AA meetings. Its the connections you make and the compassion you share together, that bring feelings of joy, happiness and fulfilment. Life is unpredictable and full of uncertainty often leading us to close our hearts and live in fear.

But what are we really in fear of? If we only saw things with love and compassion wouldn’t we let go of the fear? there would be no need for it? If we let go of the fear wouldn’t we be free? Free to enjoy all the things we let fear get In the way of. My best moments in life have always been when I haven’t let fear take over, I trusted my true self.

To practice yoga means to join the dots as it were. The dots being our mind, body and spirt. Connecting these areas opens you up to powerful insights. Take the feeling you get from connecting with a new friend, when you have a really amazing time together and talk about all the things you love, you come away feeling so good. Now imagine how it would feel if your mind, body and sprit were connecting together in harmony in a way you had never experienced before. It would be almost overwhelming, the clarity and fluidity in everything, it would be beautiful, you wouldn’t be able to not be full of love and compassion.

Part of yoga might appear just as stretching or doing strange postures, but if you look at it more deeply the idea is connection within the body and with that, connection with the mind and ultimately the spirt. One day all three becoming one and you awakening your highest self aka your sacred light.

Take big steps or baby steps just keep moving forward, nothings in your way.