I get asked sometimes, what is a women's circle? Well for me I have memories as a child of sitting in circles. You could only talk when you were holding the stick and it was a time of sharing and listening.
Women have been gathering together in circles since way back, in some cases all the women in a community would meet together as they were menstruating. When you lived in small communities it was natural that the women's menstrual cycles would sync up. What better way to celebrate fertility than to gather and rest as a group, able to support and make use of this intuitive time of the month.
For me, a nearly 30yr old woman living in the world today the idea of women coming together makes me happy. We move through our life gaining labels and assumptions of who we are as women. You’re a mum, a daughter, a housewife, single, a traveller, dating, unemployed, boss lady, divorced, widowed, single parent, slut, grandparent, retired, a friend, graduate, uneducated, Phd etc. Of course these are all important things that can be a part of us or in our lives, but really I don't think they have anything to do with who we are at the core or our being. Before we add all the stuff from above, who are we really?? Sitting in a women's circle is choosing to take off the cape you wear and just sit as the intimate, raw woman you are.
In circle, we listen with love, witness truth for women other than ourselves, and hold sacred space for one another to express without judgement or reaction. THIS is where the work is really done. Every woman who speaks her truth reflects as a mirror back to us. The words spoken are invaluable lessons for us all. Where do these words sit in my body? What do they mean to me? How can I heal from what she has shared? As we sense our ability to relate and feel compassion, we learn more about intimacy and relationships than we could ever imagine.
When we have personal spiritual practice, it is normally practiced by ourselves, alone. We learn the ins and outs of our inner world. We form a bond and relationship with ourselves, noticing our ways, nuances and habits. This deep personal work is beautiful and is needed for knowing oneself in the sanctuary of our mind and body. The beauty with women's circles is learning how we bring our knowledge of true self into relationships and intimacy. To own your truth fully in relationships and intimacy often brings fears of judgement, shaming or rejection and It can be easier to sit alone at home to feel whole and at peace with who you are. In women’s circles we pierce our sense of comfort by showing who we truly are. As another woman shares, can your truth stand along side hers? Is it possible for you to stay in loving awareness of what is true for you whilst opening enquiry deep inside, for what her words have stirred in you?